My first blog on the new website – “Up close and personal”
This is the first blog post on my new site. It should be exciting, not to mention rewarding, to watch the vision of my site come to life and to be writing its very first blog!
However, I have a confession to make. Writing has never been easy. It’s always been a struggle. Growing up with learning disabilities and PTSD made school and learning extremely difficult.
In fact, I was told to hire someone to write this, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. There was something deep within that kept me from asking for help. I knew it wasn’t fear, because I’m never fearful of asking for help, so when I dug really deep, I realized that it was an intuitive pull to keep writing… because something amazing would happen. I would somehow find the words and it would be easy because it was coming from my heart.
And so here it goes…
Wedding planning is what you see.
I am the person you come to with details and logistics. I am the one that works with you to put your wedding together from idea to execution. I am the one that conceptualizes your vision and makes it a reality.
Wrong. It’s not all of me—it’s just a piece of me. It’s my job. Cameron Diaz once said it best in an interview (and I’m paraphrasing here): ‘Actor is not who I am. It’s my job!’
My job is Wedding Planner. I offer a luxury service, in which I give my clients the best of me. I bring together all that I’m really good at along with the tools that I know they need and wallah! Their wedding is fabulous. It’s amazing. It’s everything they hoped it would be and more.
So as I started the journey of my rebrand, I had to identify what I’m REALLY good at and that should be easy, right? Wrong again! It’s not!
What I found was that I’m not good at just ONE thing—I’m good at SO many things. What I’m really great at is making sense of very complicated situations. I have the ability to simplify a project with many moving parts. I can break it down into pieces so that it’s not so overwhelming. This skill is something that I acquired long ago when I had to break things down in order to understand my world. It’s a skill that has served me very well as Wedding Planner.
However, after a long and difficult couple of years, my business was not thriving as I thought it should. I was in the throws of being a wife and a mother of four and I knew I wanted more, but I had no idea how to get it.
During this time, I found it very rewarding to sit back and reflect. Eventually, what emerged was the realization that I no longer wanted to be a multi-tasking queen. Although society convinces us that multi-tasking is smart and a valued trait in the way of event planning, it actually isn’t the best practice because we are not as productive when we have a lot of things in process. We need to focus on one thing and make it great.
I also realized that when you are stuck and dependent on “making it,” you lose your balance and it’s no longer fun anymore. Yet, when you find something that excites you, it’s exactly like taking the training wheels off for the first time—the fear is paralyzing, but once you start to peddle and the momentum picks up and you have no choice but to ride, YOU RIDE!
So right now in my life, I AM RIDING. Not only have a found a voice in what I do, but now I can teach and talk about it with authenticity—with real knowledge and experience that I have earned. No longer do I need my training wheels.
Life is funny. What we know on the surface is never what’s deep within.
I deal heavily with a chronic condition and I am always asking: “Why me? Why now?” I have so much to offer and I have a life to live for my family.
If there is one thing I’ve learned through this re-brand and connecting with my inner-self, it’s this: “Why NOT me?” And why NOT you?
I am not invisible to pain or suffering, but I determine what I will do on those pain free days. I have chosen to stop asking and start doing. With the help of my friend Josette, who is a wonder woman and a strong nutritional educator, I am finding a healthier balance in my life. And as I transition from Wedding Planner to Andy D., Entrepreneur, Coach, and Speaker, I see just how limitless we are and what we do with our talents and unique gifts is our choice. We can bury them or we can move with them.
Doing the inner work isn’t easy. It’s truly hard to stop what you’re doing and take the time to look within—to break down and fall apart and maybe not know exactly what the next steps will be, other than knowing that you want more of what makes you happy.
I believe time is a form of “energy” and what you do with that “energy” is your choice. People frequently ask me: “Andrea, how do you do it all?” At first I could never really answer, I just knew I did it. But after my time of reflection, I realized something—I did it because it made me happy and I do it selfishly everyday so I can continue to be happy.
Being creative is who I am, and I am that multi-passionate person that loves creative, out-of-the-box, challenging things, but what I find most rewarding is talking about my passion and helping other people find their gifts and passions—their happy. Whether it’s through an event or a workshop or anything that will help me reach them and inspire them.
Some people live most of their lives never stepping outside of the confines of complacency and contentment to find what they are truly passionate about. In other words, their training wheels never come off…
With this new rebrand, it’s my job to help you take them off. To hold the bike, like I do for my children, as you peddle harder in spite of fear, as you pick up momentum, and as you finally move on your own with the freedom that comes from riding out your passion.
As I continue to write my book, produce extraordinary events, teach, and create more and more… again not easy, but I feel less paralyzed with fear—I hope you’ll join me in this new adventure. I’ve gone from the girl who never felt smart enough to be successful to finding ways to be successfully ME. I’m so much happier and freer and that is what I wish for you.
To bring this blog to a close, I ask you to reflect on one thing—on one person who has made a difference in your movement.
I don’t know if I ever told this person that I admire them and their strengths, however, when a person can smile and put on a beautiful face every day even when s/he may be falling apart, I admire that.
So Sherri, I dedicate this blog to you. Although I never told you this, I think your strength and faith is an amazing gift and your attitude towards negativity astounds me. You always remain poised and classy. You are and always will be the one that took me through some of my darkest days and brought sunlight to my life! Thank you for that. And if I’m ever stressed over a situation, all I have to ask is: “What would Sherri do?” It’s in that moment that I know to have faith and move with it!